Okay… so, for those of you just joining the MOAT adventure, the Wyma family has been traveling our way through life tasks over the last 10 months. Many of these things, you might find common in your own home; but for this recovering enabler, we had to start at the beginning with making our beds (Operation Clutter Control), moved to cooking and cleaning, and have landed this month right smack dab in the incredible task of putting others ahead of ourselves. A perfect task for the season celebrating One who did just that in the grandest way imaginable.
Dec 2, Thursday:
We wrote a couple cards, this one to my dad from Speed Police, in an effort to offer condolences for the unexpected death of his best friend and business partner for over 30 years that happened last week. This was a great opportunity for me to talk about things you can do to let someone know you’re thinking about them during a difficult time. No need to try to explain away the difficulty (which we all sometimes try to do in an effort to ease the pain)… we just wanted them to know we are sad for their loss or hardship.
I have a friend that battled breast cancer. The fact that someone (she never knew who) put a single rose on her front porch every Friday made the load a bit lighter. … My incredibly thoughtful sister-in-law in Dallas brightened a leukemia-battling little boy’s difficult day every week he had to go to chemo by placing a filled back-pack on his front porch. Inside? Little games, activities, stuffed animals … anything to make a less than fun experience a bit lighter. Little things mean so much.
On Sunday, I found out from my dad how special it was for him to get this card. I knew he would be soothed by her sweet words… I had no idea how much it would mean to him.
This has spurred our thinking to others we might need to write. … Such a small effort. Such a meaningful result.
Dec 3, Friday:
We went to the Dollar Store to stock up on things for our activity next Saturday. A local ministry transforms their food pantry into the North Pole, sharing gifts with all their patrons and families. A few weeks before the festivities, though, groups bring the gifts, then little elves wrap them. We’re feeling a bit elfish :) But first the gifts … So, today we were on the hunt for coloring books. Hello Dollar Tree.
Dec 4, Saturday:
“Remember, December is our month to put others first. What do y’all feel like doing?” I ask.
The kids look at each other blindly.
Then the girls start to smile.
“It doesn’t have to be huge, right?” one of them asks.
“No … as long as your serving someone…. I think its really great if you serve each other.”
“Yea!” the other one chirps. “I’m going to make your bed.” she yells at the other while racing up the stairs.
“I’m going to make your’s, too.”
clomp, clomp, clomp…
Then I hear the first one, “Please make my bed nice.”
Needless to say, they have different “styles” of bed-making.
Both beds looked neat.
A major gift from my slightly sloppy laid-back chick to the slightly OCD, if-you’re-going-to-do-a-job-do-it-well girl.
Dec 5 Sunday:
“What’s unemployment?” they ask in almost unison.
… I explain.
Next – they respond:
“Yeah … so sad.”
“It’s been two years. Why don’t they get a job?” (That’s classic from the mouth of one who is struggling to pay attention in classes where the water is barely being tread!)
Then, the newscaster comments that The North Texas Food Bank is concerned for a rise in need and their current lack of inventory. They’re behind where they normally are at this time of year – and with the potential influx, they’re not sure what to do.
“Hey guys, ” I offer up, “Let’s take the wagon today to our neighbors and pick up some cans of food. We can take them to NorthPark (our local mall) and drop them off at that big red box by the Valet Parking.”
Pause … (they’ve stopped pushing back at this point because they’ve learned that if the idea’s there… they’re implementing)
“Okay. … Can I call Claire.” says Speed Police.
“Sure.” Always good to bring a friend.
They head back home.