In her warm, funny, relatable style, Kay Wills Wyma confronts societal issues from the comparison epidemic raging in our homes, our neighborhoods, and our social-media feeds to the youth entitlement trend that fools kids into believing they need someone (i.e. MOM!) to do everything for them. She encourages audiences and offers remedies along the way.
Local and national groups (PTAs, charitable organizations, churches, student groups (University and High School), churches, women’s events/retreats, etc) regularly invite Kay to share on these and other topics. All of which reminds her, as she hopes to remind others, we’re walking this road together.
See Kay’s Media page for more information.
(EVENT COORDINATORS, bio/blurbs/headshot below)
Fall 2016 Speaking:
- Aug 20: National Charity League (NCL) – Highlander Chapter
- Sept 9: NCL – Park Cities Chapter
- Sept 19: NCL – Turtle Creek Chapter
- Sept 21: Highland Park Presbyterian Church
- Sept 25: MOST, First Baptist Grapevine
- Sept 22: Brentfield Elementary PTA
- Sept 19: MOST, First Baptist Grapevine
- Oct 5: MOPS – Lewisville
- Oct 16: MOST, First Baptist Grapevine
- Nov 13: MOST, First Baptist Grapevine
- November 21: MOPS – Northwest Bible Church
Winter/Spring 2017 Speaking:
- Jan 15: MOST, First Baptist Grapevine
- Jan 27: Generation Love Conference with Thelma Wells
- Feb 17: Watermark Community Church – Young Women’s Leadership
- Feb 19: MOST, First Baptist Grapevine
- March 20: MOPS – Richardson
- April 6: THRIVE Women’s Clinic – Keynote
- April 7: MOPS – Lakeside
- April 21: Highland Park Middle School Lunch 6/7 Lunch Bunch
- April 23: MOST, First Baptist Grapevine
- April 28-30: Pine Cove Camps – Mother/Daughter Retreat
- May 6: Mom to Mom Retreat
- May 17: Dallas Theological Seminary – Women’s Day
Also, Kay and Jen Clouse get together weekly with other gals interested in contemplating God’s Word. If you’re in Dallas and can, feel free to pop in any Tuesday from 9:30 – 11. Click here for details – or to tune in:
FOR EVENT COORDINATORS:
Blurbs for most requested topics. Contact firstname.lastname@example.org for info on others:
Finding Contentment In A Culture of Comparison
- Comparison is the shortest route to a long funk. Our friends become our audience (or judges) and our titles, activities, even kids become part of our brand. Factor in comparison-infested social media and no wonder we’re drained and feeling isolated. But we have options. Join Kay Wyma on a candid, humorous exploration of comparison’s traps and others-oriented solutions.
- With its focus on smarter, faster, thinner, younger, and ever better, Obsessive Comparison Disorder has taken over homes across the globe. With candor and relatable stories, Kay Wyma shares tips and strategies on how to recapture contentment in our lives and in our homes.
Some related articles/media:
- National Radio Interviews: NPR’s Think with Kris Boyd, Family Life Today – The Danger of Comparison, Eric Metaxas Show, Dr. James Dobson’s Family Talk
- Graduates, Listen to Your Mom (Kay Wyma, USA Today, 6/15)
- Pressures of Perfection (NYT, 7/15) and related post The Battle with Best (themoatblog 7/15)
- New Study Links Facebook to Depression (Forbes 4/15)
Discussion Questions for your group:
- How do you define comparison? Do you agree with Theodore Roosevelt’s definition: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” What are some specific actions you can take to see beyond the moment?
- How does concern about what others think of us drive our choices and behaviors?
- What societal trends/practices (social media, personal branding, kid-achievements, … fill in the blank and share :) tempt contentment disruption in your life?
- What practical methods are available to turn down the volume on comparison pressures? How can we use them in our own lives and help others around us to be able to breathe and find joy in the midst?
Taming Youth Entitlement
With the greatest of intentions and in the name of love, parents hover, race in to save, arrange for success, overprotect, and enable their children. Take one frustrated mom add some overly messy rooms, a few well-placed whines and five unintentionally enabled kids and welcome to one family’s adventure to stop entitlement. Because kids can do more than they (or we) think they can.
Some related articles/media:
- The TODAY Show segment: CNN Interview: Are We Raising a Generation of Helpless Kids?, Fox & Friends: Do Your Kids Think Money Grows on Trees? , and Glenn Beck: Fighting Against the Growing Entitlement Society
- Let Them Climb Trees (and fall) 6/12 (Kay Wyma, NYT Motherlode)
- America & the Value of Earned Success, Arthur Brooks, WSJ
- Why Parents Need to Let Their Children Fail, Jess Lahey, The Atlantic
Discussion Questions for your group:
- What role does how you were raised play in the way you parent?
- What pressures do you think are the most difficult for parents?
- How have these pressures affected your relationship with your spouse? your kids? your extended family?
- Are there any areas where you can see yourself racing in to save or over-hovering? What motivates us to do it?
- What are some areas that you might try to increase your child’s responsibility in your home?
- What do you think will be the hardest area to let go?
- How can we encourage each other and walk the road together?
Kay Wills Wyma is a blogger, mother of five, and author. With candor and humor, Kay’s latest book, I’m Happy for You (Sort of … not really) explores the troubling effects of living in a comparison-laced culture. Through it and her first book Cleaning House, she has appeared on NPRs Think, The Eric Metaxas Show, The TODAY Show, CNN, Glenn Beck, The New York Times, Focus on the Family (Best of 2013), Family LIfe, Dr. James Dobson’s Family Talk (Best of 2013) and more. Before becoming a stay-at-home mom, she held positions at the White House, the Staubach Company, and Bank of America. Kay lives in the Dallas area with her husband, Jon, and their family.
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“…you truly helped me stop and shake myself out of some unhealthy habits that as you so eloquently put, completely rob my life of joy. There is so much to celebrate, it’s beyond me why I waste so much time stuck in comparison. So, again, thank you for your work, because it’s really making a difference!” – L
“…Thank you so much. It was such a breath of fresh air to know I’m not the only one struggling with comparison, and for giving your readers practical ways to “overcome” it. I know this side of heaven I will never be fully comparison-free, but I know there’s work I can do to be more content, grateful and others-minded.” – SB
“Kay, your presentation was amazing! Everyone in the group related to the crazy pressure we women put on ourselves. You did a fabulous job of getting everyone to think about the things that cause us so much angst and stress and gave us tools to remember that “real people” are on the other side of everything.” – DG