One thing I’ve noticed with my kids is how quickly they take “no” for an answer or even assume they can’t ask. I mean, someone could look at them with a quizzical response to a question and, more often than not, they’re running the other way saying something like, “It’s closed” or “Can’t do it,” or “I told you it would be no.” I find it so interesting. It must have something to do with aversion to failure. Or maybe it’s just regular kid don’t-want-out-of-the-comfort-zone. Could it the new normal of choosing flight over fight? Thinking that very few things are worth scraping and clawing to get to the other side. The other day I drove to Plano with one of my kids riding shotgun by my side. We absolutely love the Great Harvest Bread Company. When one near our house closed a few years ago, I went into mourning. So,
Last night I had the wonderful pleasure of speaking at St. Luke’s Episcopal School in San Antonio. I loved getting to meet the terrific families and enjoyed the great conversation that ensued on the topic of taming youth entitlement; but, one of the sweetest pleasures was getting to know Tom McLaughlin, St. Luke’s Head of School. His passion on eradicating entitlement and, more importantly, raising up leaders fills every hall and classroom in that school. I asked him if I could share with you something he wrote to encourage the parents and families in his school. I hope you are inspired like me. Thanks, Tom …. and thanks for walking the road with me. -Kay TOP TEN LIST …. for helping your tween/teen become AUTONOMOUS & RESILIENT 1) Encourage your son/daughter to make close friends and acquaintances at school.
I have to say that I really would never have imagined myself sharing a video clip of Ashton Kutcher. Not that I don’t think he’s adorable, I just wouldn’t have expected what he delivered at Fox’s Teen Choice Award to come from such an unlikely venue. But he delivered. And it’s worth watching. And possibly sharing with your child, (I say cringing slightly at his use of a couple of words; but I’m a geek and I know kids use those words. He used one of them well. Grabbed attention then lathered it in truth. But still … I can’t shrug off my southern upbringing where some words are off limits. See Also: a conversation I just had with my daughter about one of the words he used. Funny, she heard the same word used by an adult in church. We disagreed on the foul nature of the word and its suitability.
Thanks to the moms who sent me links to Tim Elmore’s articles on Huff Post. It never hurts to put more fuel in the equipping tank. Maybe we need it as we continue to stay strong and fight the urge to step in and do for our kids rather than let them sink or swim on their own. Especially as the start of school gets ever closer. In one of the articles, Tim compares parenting to teaching a kid to ride a bike. I couldn’t agree more and have shared the same thing myself. We would never stay running along side our young adult children as they ride their bikes. That would be colossally embarrassing – for everyone! I thought about it the other day when a group of tween boys rode their bikes in front of my house. Fishing poles in hand, they were on their way to the tiny lake (of the pond variety) at the end of our street to hang out and catch what