Today’s Table Talk is by our friend Sue Bohlin. When I read it, I couldn’t help but laugh at the way my kids could use a filter change – mostly because their beliefs center on them always being right… well they pretty much center on anything them centered (not always, but for sure often). Sue always has something worthwhile to share. It’s a convicting word for us as well as our kids. Thanks, Sue … and thanks for walking the road with me. -Kay Life doesn’t just happen to us; we experience it and interpret it through a filter. That filter, like a pair of glasses, consists of beliefs and values we might not even realize we hold. The same event could be experienced and interpreted in different ways by different people because of their different filters: for example, getting a flat tire. One person
Some years ago at a MOPS meeting, I heard a tremendous word of wisdom. The speaker suggested that moms instruct their children not to whine and complain “because whining is criticizing God’s provision.” Whoa. She’s absolutely right. If someone gets a bigger slice of cake than me, and I complain about it, I am criticizing the giver of cake, who is ultimately God. (Especially in a world where people are dying of starvation.) If I only get ten presents on Christmas morning and the kid down the street got twenty and I complain about it, I am criticizing God’s provision of more gifts than most children will ever see. If someone gets a car on their 16th birthday and I don’t, and I whine about it, I am criticizing the fact that God put me in a family that either cannot, or chooses not to (or both), give me what it seems everybody else gets.
Today’s Table Talk is from the amazing Sue Bohlin. Not only has she written this very helpful bit for us on the pitfalls of letting frustration get the best of us, she has also opened the door to discussing sensitive issues by writing a guest blog on the importance of talking about sexual orientation with your tween/teens. I’ll be adding a page called “Tough Stuff” where you can check it out. THANKS, Sue. … Hope you all enjoy, and thanks for walking the road with me. -Kay My first son came out of the womb with two questions: Are the rules the same today as yesterday? And, Can I be in charge? He pushed me and fought me and clashed with me on just about everything when he was young. Needless to say, homeschooling him didn’t last real long; all of kindergarten and two months of first grade was as much as either of
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